Most overweight women have been taught that to lose weight it’s just a matter of going on a diet. For these women, the “eat less, move more” philosophy just sugar coats the fact that some use food and eating to protect deep dark secrets from the past. Debra Mazda, a professional who has worked with women most of her adult life, knows this issue is more complex. She has watched women lose 100 pounds only to gain 150 back. Debra knows this cycle all too well in her own life. Obesity plagued Debra in her childhood and teen years, culminating in a mental breakdown in her 30’s.This began her journey to Health, Healing and Hope. Not only did she lose over 100 pounds, but she was able to forgive those who abused her for years
"Eating My Secrets" by Debra Mazda is really good and makes you think, and really is a great tool to losing weight and learning to accept yourself and being healthy.
This is a quote from the book " We are indeed much more than we eat, but what we eat can never less help us to be much more than we are" Adele Davis
This book is both in my opinion is both an self help and an autobiography. I felt myself feeling the author's pain as I read about her life. Maybe, this is too much info, but I remembering going and seeing my dad three or four months before he died, and he said "Debbie, I want you to lose weight before you die like Raymond do. Raymond was my stepbrother. I remember being angry and reading this book brought that memory up because the author talks about her grandmother wanting her to lose weight and we both thought they were being judgmental and critical, but in looking back we both realized it was because they loved us.
This book is a review book but it is one that I will be rereading time after time, I am even underlining, which is something I hardly ever do. I loan out my print books and even give some away but this book I will not loan out or give away for along time, if ever.
I think the author thinks if a woman is overweight, it is because of sexual abuse in her childhood, because it happened to her. I agreed that is the case in alot of woman, and she even has facts to prove her statement. But, I don't believe that all overweight woman are overweight because sexual abuse happened to her.
The author makes the points that diets don't work because when we focus on diets we are focusing on the food and not on ourselves. She says we need to stay in touch with ourselves and not set our hope on the goal of being skinny and perfect , but set our goal on the hope of feeling normal and love ourselves the way God loves us.
She also encourages moving( exercising).
She also says that it isn't healthy to be considered with the numbers on a scale. in fact it is a trigger to feel shame, binge, or even being suicidal if the number isn't up to your standard. We need to realize that what we give our attention to is what can affect and even rule your life. When I read that, I though do I really want my body weight number to rule my life, I have so much more in my life like my husband, my kids and my grandkids and I want God to rule my life not some number that changes constantly according to the time of the day and other factors.
She also encourages positive self talk when the negative critic inside your head begins to tell you that you are stupid, fat, disgusting and I blow it so I might as well eat whatever I want. We cannot control everything in our lives, but we can control our thoughts. She also points out that we need to forgive ourselves of wrong beliefs and actions as well as forgiving others who has hurt us, physically or emotionally.
Well, I need to close this review and go exercise.I am going to close with this quote from the book "Well, it's time to get back to real life, because dieting is not part of the real world."
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